Tangled Beliefs

Leaving in the middle of the other story because the next part is better for me after a pause.

So I got to work in time to hear someone taking what I considered an arrogant tone with a client over the phone. I sighed. Set up to work, settled in. The actual call is over, but the conversation goes on from the other side, "That jerk ripped my nylons. "

Sigh, now she has a client with magical powers to reach through the phone. Judgment, judgment, judgment, irritation. The conversation of the misbehaving client continues on and off for about 40 minutes.

Sigh, this is not the way I wanted to start my day. I want her to stop. Then an inner voice goes off my head, and asks, "Can you tell me the correlation between her causing you to have a bad day, and her complaining the gentlemen on the phone ripped her nylons?" Ah, hmmm, well, oh, dang it.

Same trap. How is it I think she is responsible for my day or my feelings. I dunna know.

So easy to slide into blaming even with the best of intentions.

thinking about it. . . what's new


“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are